Ms. Tang, a Beijing reader, consulted: My daughter Yaya was 6 years old and she made a mistake and refused to admit it. The last time she played games with her cousin, Yaya made him dressed as a gray wolf and he was a happy boy. He was a disgruntled youngster, and he was very happy. When he was pushed down, the child cried. Dad looked in his eyes and asked if Ya Ya bullied his cousin, but she did not admit it. Dad let her apologize and she ran away. Later she encountered similar problems. What should parents do?
The state's second-level psychological counselor Ji Jinmin explained: The child does not want to admit mistakes, generally have the following reasons: dare not admit, fear of being punished; in the period of ideological struggle, there is a period of contradiction after making mistakes, both want to admit and dare not, have concerns; There is only a part of their responsibility, and those who should bear more responsibility have not yet acknowledged it; the concept of right and wrong is not strong, and the child is not aware of his fault.
In general, parents can guide the following aspects: 1. The space for children to buffer. After the child makes mistakes, parents do not force him to admit mistakes, give him time to reflect on their own. 2. Use stories to lead the way. Can tell a celebrity story or fairy tales, The side guides children to take the initiative to admit mistakes and correct mistakes. 3. Children should encourage encouragement and do not criticize them. Parents should not criticize the handle constantly. Should first affirm the child's courage to admit mistakes, give proper recognition, and then help him analyze where he is wrong. Do not force children to admit mistakes in public. Children also have self-esteem. Parents are best advised to talk privately with their children. When the child's self-esteem is protected and respected, he recognizes the mistake and will naturally apologize. A variety of ways of acknowledging mistakes. You can admit mistakes in person, and you can also admit mistakes indirectly, such as writing letters of apology, sharing toys with each other, etc. ▲
