Director of Southern Institute of Sexology Hu Tingyi
Communication is an important means to promote mutual understanding. This also applies to sex. Couples communicate on the feelings and experiences of sexual love, and thus achieve a harmonious, harmonious process of sexual love, that is, sexual communication.
The contents of sexual communication include not only their own physical needs, but also the feelings or desires of sexual love. The specific content is fourfold. 1. The exchange of sexual signals, that is, understanding each other's sexual habits, and knowing each other's language and actions It implies sexual love, such as the special name of sexual love, a provocative eye, etc. 2. The sexual reaction of communication, that is to understand each other's feelings, such as the sexual sensitivity of the other party to stimulate their sensitive area, the desired frequency of sexual love, speed Responses to pleasure and climax, etc. 3. Sexual and sexual communication, such as the position of sexuality, the preference of time and environment, etc. 4. The exchange of emotions, that is, the understanding of the other's favorite intimacy methods, such as how to kiss and hug; sex process What kind of transcripts I liked, such as recalling the sweetness of first love, writing love letters to the other party, etc.
It is also important to choose the right time for sexual exchanges. For newlyweds, because of lack of sexual experience, sex can be exchanged before and after sex, which helps to overcome the embarrassment caused by lack of timidity and sexual experience. For couples for many years, they can summarize after sex, talk about feelings, correct sexual life, and continuously improve satisfaction.
In addition, sexual communication is not confined to conversation. There can be multiple ways, such as eyes, signals, movements, etc. As long as one can understand each other and make suggestions for better sex, it is an effective sexual communication. It can not only increase the number of Sexual pleasure, comfort and intimacy, but also enable the close integration of sexual physiology and psychology between husband and wife, to achieve a harmonious realm of life.
When communicating, we must also pay attention to the following points: First, to be honest, don’t hide. Some wives have never experienced sexual orgasm in their sexual lives, but they pretend to have something that the husband believes to be true. As a result, this condition has not been obtained for a long time. Adjustments have finally led to uncoordinated sexual intercourse between husband and wife, affecting the quality of marriage and self-defeating. Second, sexual communication is not confined to bed, but can also be reflected in everyday conversational behavior and emotional atmosphere. This will also increase love between husband and wife. , Make marriage life more sweet. Third, we must take the initiative to respond to each other. Some women are ashamed to face sexual issues, dare not show it, which will affect the effectiveness of sexual communication. Therefore, sexual communication should encourage each other to take the initiative Can truly communicate and achieve harmony. ▲
