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The impact of communication efficiency is multifaceted, ranging from intimacy to persuading partners that effective communication is one of the most important skills in life and in the workplace, as each relationship starts with communication. But have you ever wondered how many of the contradictions people make in their communication are ultimately rooted in the subjective differences of opinion that the French artist Marcel Duchamp assigned to the 'urinal' in 1917, From a completely new perspective, it is no longer a common object in life, but a unique artwork, Fountain, regarded as one of the most influential iconic works of the 20th century. 
Of course, it also aroused prolonged hermeneutics. When it was on display, some critics pointed out that the piece was plagiarism because it was a ready-made industrial product manufactured at the factory, but it did not matter whether Dusan responded "whether it was made by me personally Choosing it, choosing a common living tool, giving it a new headline that allows people to see it from a new perspective, so that its original usefulness is lost and a new content gained. The immediate problem that comes with urinals is that if ready-made objects count as artwork, what is 'art?' 'Can everyone define art differently?' The art world has been arguing around this issue. Of course, this is not just about art, but the discussion of 'what is art' is actually about human nature, which takes place in other contexts of life, especially between people. Become a good communicator, much more than words, more understanding.What to understand? How to understand? Here are the three most important principles. 1 Understand the paradox of communication Know the Paradox of Communication Everyone is a unique individual, with different life experiences that create different preferences, tastes, and feelings about the surroundings; in other words, we are a collection of experiences. 'A honey, B cream' is also reflected in the relationship between people and a person who seems very attractive to you, perhaps others have caused disgust. Suppose there are two people who debate for different political beliefs. If you look at it and conclude, you will find that the two sides will never reach a consensus. The reason is very simple. On the surface, they are for such problems as medical treatment and taxation Debate, but that is not the real conversation itself. In fact, before the start of the debate, the two sides have made presuppositions of 'what is right and what is right and what', so that it is no longer important to discuss what they are because they never stand on an objective perspective. Both sides of communication are based on the fact that their subjective opinions are objective and correct, but this is not the case - this is the paradox in communication. People tend to use the subjective experience combined with the preferred part of the truth reasoning, unwilling to try from all angles to try to understand what the facts are. 2 Insight into the motivation for dialogue Recognize the Incentives of a Conversation Understanding the communication paradox mentioned above may help, but it does not always work. Because people are used to being opinionated, believing in what they think is correct, it's hard to change one's thoughts, and it's hard for you to make any concessions or compromises about what you believe, even if you hold No more honest attitude, no help. In such a situation, the best way to get results is to understand each other's motivation, goals, or points of interest in communication. Even if you can not be honest, you'll be well rewarded once you have a deep understanding of what each person wants, and sometimes the best solution is not to pursue the truth, but to find a good solution. In some conversations, one party may just want an apology (a situation that often occurs in the context of a spouse's quarrel); in other contexts it may be a somewhat over-demanding one, such as a mediocre employee asking for a promotion, Raise. At this moment, if you do not get what the other person wants and assume that the situation will continue to deteriorate (and the truth is that the other person just wants to hear 'sorry') then things may not grow as bad as you expected. Similarly, if the employee asks for a pay increase that exceeds his or her actual ability, you should not argue or even directly deny it as a communicator, and it is smarter to discuss with the other an objective measure. In this way, the morale of the employee will not Been suppressed, but also has the goal and enthusiasm for the struggle. In short, it is forbidden to argue endlessly in communication for a certain point of view, and more from the interests of both parties, can you maximize the benefits of communication. 3 Learn to read people's stories Learn to Treat People Like Stories Finally, a good communication should play out the value of empathy, which is often referred to as 'empathy', rather than being eager to reach some sort of "alliance" with the other. The reason why people like a particular piece of art is, in the final analysis, because of some of their previous experiences, which gave them a sense of substitution when they admired the art and put their own experience into the artistic perspective. In other words, Man's place. Similarly, people hold a certain point of view is a combination of their own life experience (and therefore not objective) .Everyone has their own story, therefore, to communicate with others, need to read the story behind the story, a lot of people in the Communication will fall into the surface of the discussion, thus ignoring the underlying factors that led to the discussion. Conversely, if you understand the story behind creating this person, you can better understand their situation and interest claims, and empathy is not only a virtue, but also the best way to improve communication.
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