Let the children obedient, light nagging useless
National secondary counselors, family education lecturer Mai Shun Pina
In life, parents always talk to their children: 'You have to be polite and everyone will love you.' 'Farmer uncle hard ah, waste food is not right.' The parents say that children are not concerned. Why say it The truth can not always enter the child's ears?
Master Rogers psychology that learning is divided into two types: meaningless learning and meaningful learning when the content of learning is purely knowledge or reason, has nothing to do with the child's personal experience, can not trigger the emotional experience, this learning In fact, meaningless.For example, two people learn the terrain analysis, a person facing the examination after the end of learning, the other person needs to be on the battlefield responsible for demining, which people will learn more seriously? The answer is undoubtedly the need to get on the battlefield.
In many cases, parents think their own truth makes sense but can not resonate with their children because there is no relevant experience. The human memory system is characterized by the deepest and most memorable things are often accompanied by strong emotions, and vice versa are forgotten. This is why the children do not listen to parents nagging, therefore, I hope children learn knowledge and truth, can not rely on that, have to worry.
Focus on participation.Hope children cherish food, you can take him to observe the growing process of food, or personally involved in this process, let the child's body to drive the brain to learn.
Guide the initiative to ask questions.A lot of children are passive learning, in fact, a better approach is to guide parents to produce curiosity, take the initiative to learn.For example, children want to be polite, rather than directly tell him how to do, it is better to let children observe the practice of different people, Guide your child in the right way with others.
Equality and communication.Many parents think that education should be serious on the face, but the more it is, the more threatening the discourse is, the easier it is for children to conflict with each other.Our aim is education and not a lesson so as to create a pleasant and harmonious atmosphere as much as possible, More conducive to children's learning.
Every child longs to grow and become a complete person.Parents want to trust their children and give them the initiative to learn.The children will bring us unexpected surprises.
